感谢神,透过 Richard 协助台湾的事工评估,也知道他有教练的专业(他常用这专业协助我们的评估),因此当我们国家的 Leader Impact 事工邀请他来台湾,教导我们这方面的课程,毫不犹豫就报名了。

工作坊中,我们学习了整个教练过程,他也让我们有彼此练习的机会。在课程进行中,可以感受到他用心备课的精神,让我们有最大的领受。也知道教练是与圣灵同工,帮助人可以看见自己可以改变的部分,或者盲点。让我知道,教练的技巧,不仅可以用在事工中,可以用在生活许多层面。在练习中,我也发现果去自己真的习惯告诉别人该怎么做,这是需要大大的调整。

“我不再是答案的提供者,而是帮助人发现答案并进行改变,整个过程是轻省的,也使被教练的对象更有动力。”

Shirley C.

Women’s Ministry

结束课程之后,我就开始在生活中练习教练,不一定是正式的约谈,但常练习问好问题。最近的一次,我和一位师母(也是好朋友),有一个长时间的对谈,我和她分享这个学习,也实际运用教练的技巧帮助她面对服事的瓶颈。她分享,这对她非常有帮助,我们也订立了行动的计画和下次教练的时间。我们都非常兴奋。我不再是答案的提供者,而是帮助人发现答案并进行改变,整个过程是轻省的,也使被教练的对象更有动力。

人是健忘的,虽然已经上过课,还是要继续复习材料,继续练习教练的技巧。我发现自己在新的事工和教会的服事,都开始操练这个方面。不再努力想答案,而是怎么问想好问题。整个过程中,我最大的收获和发现是,有许多人在找答案,而我们常习惯别人给我们答案,却不知道答案和未来都在我们手中。每个人都有潜力,我们需要为自己的生命负责,而教练正是一个很美的桥梁,将我们心中的隐密或需要显明,也产生动力去完成计画,是一个可以用在服事极美的工具。

I thank God that Richard has been helping Taiwan ministry in using metrics for evaluation. I know he is a professional coach (and he uses his professional skills to help us in our evaluation), and when I heard that our LeaderImpact ministry invited him to conduct a Coaching Workshop, I signed up without any hesitation.

During the workshop, we learned the whole coaching process and had opportunities to practice coaching with one another. I could clearly see the efforts Richard put into preparing for the class, which helped us maximize our understanding of the material. I learned that coaching is working with the Holy Spirit, helping people discover where they can change, and where their blind spots are. I also learned that coaching skills can be used not only in ministry but also in many areas of my life. During our practices, I realized that I am used to telling people what to do, and this is where I need a drastic change.

After the workshop, I started to practice using coaching skills in my life; not necessarily during coaching conversations, but definitely trying to ask powerful questions. I recently had a long conversation with a pastor’s wife (who is also a good friend), during which I shared with her what I learned and actually used the skills to help her work through a bottleneck in her ministry. She shared that the conversation was very helpful! We worked on some action steps and even decided on our next coaching conversation; we were both excited! I am no longer the person who provides answers, but someone who helps another discover their own answers and then work towards change. The whole process is relaxed and yet motivates the person being coached.

Humans tend to be forgetful. Though I have attended the workshop, I need to continue practising the skills that I have learned. I have begun to apply these skills in my ministry and in church. Instead of trying to provide answers, I now try to think of good questions to ask. I realized that we are all seeking answers, and tend to expect others to provide the answers, not realizing that the answers are already within us. Everyone has potential, and we need to take responsibility for our own lives. Coaching is a beautiful tool that not only helps surface the needs and answers within us but also motivates us to act and accomplish our plans.

 

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