感謝神,透過Richard協助台灣的事工評估,也知道他有教練的專業(他常用這專業協助我們的評估),因此當我們國家的 Leader Impact 事工邀請他來台灣,教導我們這方面的課程,毫不猶豫就報名了。

在工作坊中,我們學習了整個教練過程,他也讓我們有彼此練習的機會。在課程進行中,可以感受到他用心備課的精神,讓我們有最大的領受。也知道教練是與聖靈同工,幫助人可以看見自己可以改變的部分,或者盲點。讓我知道,教練的技巧,不僅可以用在事工中,可以用在生活許多層面。在練習中,我也發現果去自己真的習慣告訴別人該怎麼做,這是需要大大的調整。

“我不再是答案的提供者,而是幫助人發現答案並進行改變,整個過程是輕省的,也使被教練的對象更有動力。”

Shirley C.

Women’s Ministry

結束課程之後,我就開始在生活中練習教練,不一定是正式的約談,但常練習問好問題。最近的一次,我和一位師母(也是好朋友),有一個長時間的對談,我和她分享這個學習,也實際運用教練的技巧幫助她面對服事的瓶頸。她分享,這對她非常有幫助,我們也訂立了行動的計畫和下次教練的時間。我們都非常興奮。我不再是答案的提供者,而是幫助人發現答案並進行改變,整個過程是輕省的,也使被教練的對象更有動力。

人是健忘的,雖然已經上過課,還是要繼續復習材料,繼續練習教練的技巧。我發現自己在新的事工和教會的服事,都開始操練這個方面。不再努力想答案,而是怎麼問想好問題。整個過程中,我最大的收穫和發現是,有許多人在找答案,而我們常習慣別人給我們答案,卻不知道答案和未來都在我們手中。每個人都有潛力,我們需要為自己的生命負責,而教練正是一個很美的橋樑,將我們心中的隱密或需要顯明,也產生動力去完成計畫,是一個可以用在服事極美的工具。

I thank God that Richard has been helping Taiwan ministry in using metrics for evaluation. I know he is a professional coach (and he uses his professional skills to help us in our evaluation), and when I heard that our LeaderImpact ministry invited him to conduct a Coaching Workshop, I signed up without any hesitation.

During the workshop, we learned the whole coaching process, and had opportunities to practice coaching with one another. I could clearly see the efforts Richard put into preparing for the class, which helped us maximize our understanding of the material. I learned that coaching is working with the Holy Spirit, helping people discover where they can change, and where their blind spots are. I also learned that coaching skills can be used not only in ministry, but also in many areas of my life. During our practices, I realized that I am used to telling people what to do, and this is where I need drastic change.

After the workshop, I started to practice using coaching skills in my life; not necessarily during coaching conversations, but definitely trying to ask powerful questions. I recently had a long conversation with a pastor’s wife (who is also a good friend), during which I shared with her what I learned and actually used the skills to help her work through a bottleneck in her ministry. She shared that the conversation was very helpful! We worked on some action steps and even decided on our next coaching conversation; we were both excited! I am no longer the person who provides answers, but someone who helps another discover their own answers and then work towards change. The whole process is relaxed and yet motivates the person being coached.

Humans tend to be forgetful. Though I have attended the workshop, I need to continue practicing the skills that I have learned. I have began to apply these skills in my ministry and in church. Instead of trying to provide answers, I now try to think of good questions to ask. I realized that we are all seeking answers, and tend to expect others to provide the answers, not realizing that the answers are already within us. Everyone has potential, and we need to take responsibility for our own lives. Coaching is a beautiful tool that not only helps surface the needs and answers within us, but also motivates us to act and accomplish our plans.

 

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